My phone started to vibrate and it was one of my aunts. I met her last month at my cousin's wedding. I never met her before. I think I am a second cousin removed to her. My cousin who is 33 years old was getting married, and every relative there talked about when I am going to tie the knots. To save my parents' from being embarassed, I just told them as soon as I find someone compatible. And of course that was not true.
Then, my mother kicked it up a notch by asking aunt if she knew anyone to set me up with since my aunt is a public school teacher and thus has many single female colleagues and most importantly, a public school teacher is one of the most popular marriage material in Korea. This is so because they tend to have 4 month long vacation, get paid well and come off smart a bit. And in Korea, this working condition is nowhere to be found.
As a result, my aunt and I exchanged numbers and she said she'd call me sometime. And the phone call that I have been dreading finally was made.
And I let it go to the voice mail.
To be completely honest, I did not want to get set up. Well, I think it would be correct to say I don't want an arranged marriage primarily because of my parents. So, my grandfather (dad's) used to run a grocery and my grandmother (mom's) used to be one of the regulars. And they cozied up to each other and realized that had a single son and a single daughter.
This is how my parents met and exchanged vows.
I love my parents to death. But sometimes, the way they communicate and interact with each other makes me think about marriage in general. They are so opposite.. very different. But rest assured, it is not like my parents are unhappy. Just like any other couples, they, nay, WE have good times and bad times. And being the go-between and the only child, I also have my own share of happiness and hardships.
Sure, I can put the size of my (well, my parents') fortune in numbers. 3 is the number of houses that my folks poessess. Some million or more is what I make annually. 6 (foot) is how tall I am. (since Korean girls LOVE guys over 6 foot tall) But these are all numbers and are NOT indicative of who I am and what I am. And yet, it is what decides whether I am going to marry the girl set up with me. And this is NOT just right.
Should I give my aunt a call back? Probally I won't. What if she calls back, I will come up with some excuse. Aunt, I really appreacite your intentions, but no thanks. And no thank you, some of my co-workers trying to fix me up as well! I am good for now-
